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A: “Listen to your heart rather than your head” is an age-old cliché which sounds charming until you consider the real message behind this phrase. “Head” obviously stands for your logical side, which helps you understand what you need from your partner; the part of you which will analyse their behaviour to see if they are good for you. “Heart” is supposedly referring to our emotional side, but in reality, is all about what feels good at that moment, and let’s be honest: most of the time it’s linked to physical attraction and hormones. “The butterflies” which feel wonderful and also tend to turn red flags into green. So, why has the "head" been condemned? We all know what happens when those hormones wear off: we start seeing things clearly and any incompatibility become obvious. Attraction is important, but don’t just listen to your heart – refrain from making any life-changing decisions until you get the stamp of approval from your head as well... This is exactly where we can help you see things objectively.

A: Dating goals can differ, so even if you’re not looking for life partnership at present, but rather someone like-minded to spend time with for now, you’d still want to ensure you find a partner who is onboard and shares your outlook, who is likely to enhance your life instead of making it difficult. Sometimes, it’s perfectly normal to keep an open mind regarding your future, especially if you burned your fingers in the past. Let’s call it self-awareness or self-preservation rather than selfish. If you’re happy and your goals are aligned, you’ll be making your potential partner happy too. Understanding yourself, your basic needs and sharing them with a partner is, in fact, the opposite of being selfish because you’re taking care of yourself and taking care of them as well by being honest and setting expectations upfront.

A: We're a relatable couple who survived past disasters, the dating minefield and got where we are (living the good life, that is). Years of research and experience demonstrate it CAN be done no matter how badly you were hurt in the past or how many failed relationships you had. Moreover, Mila is a certified relationship and dating coach, trained by one of the world’s most trusted relationship experts. She uses a science-based coaching method built on a ground-breaking study of marriage, divorce and new love. It offers proven practical strategies to find and keep healthy relationships.